@ladybeachbum : My Dd's Driving Instructor talked to the kids about WHAT IFs? They talked about good and bad options. She encouraged her students to talk to their parent(s) and sign a contract, so if they had concerns about driving/riding, CALL PARENT for safe ride home-anytime-anywhere-no lectures-barnstorm talks the following day! We all agreed and signed the contract. This lady was amazing and Dd was better prepped because the WHAT IFs. If something happened, she was not blindsided and understood it was better to be safe than sorry!!
The concerns did not just include (self or other person) drinking alcohol or doing drugs: **not feeling well, **bad weather (heavy rain, fog, freezing road conditions), **car issue (mechanical), or **feeling weird (refers to spiked/drugged drinks).
This rule is still in place TODAY......My 2 kids are grown and includes also applies to DIL and SIL -ranging from 26-31. Sheep happens......better safe than sorry!!
As a SHM, my house was where the kids and their friends hung out at plus they loved our pool. All of the kids were respectful, polite, thoughtful and were/still are really good responsible kids.
One of the guys was a year older than my son, so he was the first to turn 21. 🎉🎉. He came over as usual, but something was different.....loud, kinda rude and drunk! He didn't drink here and had nothing with him. After a short time he was ready to leave, burn his keys had been put up and the battle began. There was no way in H*LL I was going to let him leave this house.....this guy was like a son and I would have been haunted forever if.....
The kids tried to reason with him.....just got mad, he was 21 and he was fine to drive. This guy drove a car that shook and rattled my windows upon his arrival, so he wasn't going to be flying under any cop radar as he blow past them. I finally convinced him if he had to go home, we would take him. My son could have taken him, but because he was so belligerent. The next morning is car was missing, he called my son freakin out his car had been stolen.....cursing every other word. He remembered absolutely NOTHING about the day before. My son brought him over to pick up his car......so embarrassed!!
He thanked me many, many times and said he appreciated that we really had his back...because as loud as his car was-- could have been in JAIL or worst!!!!! The fact he remembered nothing at all.....EYE OPENING to ALL!