I can’t judge the son. Unless you have lived with mental illness or a dementia patient you just can’t understand. I have a mentally ill son and my Dad had Alzheimer’s- even with those experience I can’t imagine both diseases in one person. It would be hell on earth. My Dad was very verbally abusive towards my sister at the beginning of his disease. We’ve numerous visits from the police over the 30 years my son has been alive. He’s been verbally and physically abusive( shoved me down the stairs and I ended up bruised and had an ankle sprain and pulled a knife on me and threatened to gut me- those are 2 of the many incidences).
My husbands Mom had the same mentally illness and he and his siblings were very damaged by her. We spent years in therapy learning to deal with her AND how to help my son. My husband had to end the relationship with his Mother because it was so toxic.
So when I read the son’s comments I feel so bad for him and his Mom but mainly him. It is so hard to be the caregiver and unless you are wealthy it’s hard to afford care.until you walk a mile in our shoes please try to not judge......