I hear ya.
We moved here to find balance - my kids wanted a "regular neighborhood", husband wanted nature and privacy and I wanted something where I could commute to work and the kid's school.
Honestly I carry the biggest burden because I drive a lot everyday. The thing is that we wanted our retirement home now - while the family can enjoy it and we are young and strong and able to maintain the land and house. One thing I have learned - you never know how long you will live - grab the love, the life you want NOW. I am living my golden years NOW.