@Dragonlovermom
Wow. I'm sorry. I was assuming he could be an adult about this. I don't have kids and won't even pretend that I know what it's like to be a parent... But as a child of divorce I appreciated that I was not forced to do anything I wasn't ready to do.

Oh no you never do that! My guess is your oldest knows it's more than "your mom kicked me out" type thing. My suggestion would be explain to him, his dad is seeing they are growing up and their turning into guys? Being they are getting ready to go into a new school year, he's trying to show him he's not a baby anymore. But in mom's eyes you will always be my baby even on your wedding day!

@Dragonlovermom
Totally wrong thing to say(dad)!
Some good advise on here. Keep talking. Keep reassuring. Keep hugging.

Dad's comment was out of line. Your kids (and you) are hurting due to the separation. Keep communication lines open - always. Try to keep your tongue in check about what Dad said - don't mention it to the ex if you can avoid it. Your kids saw what was happening at home prior to the separation. They get it. They are just trying to figure out where they fit in the puzzle now. LOTS of hugs and time spent with them Mom. You all will get through this. Hugs for you my friend.

@Dragonlovermom
That is so unfair! Sounds to me like your oldest needs some reassurance that he still has a Dad. The miles between them might be hard on him. Hope all works out good. Hard to see your kids hurt.

Hang in there! Always love your children. Do not say anything negative about your ex in front of them. You are the better parent that seems to have way more respect. Don't let him get to you with his words. Believe me mine was the same way. My ex never became the adult I thought he could be. Always stayed a teenager. My son as he grew up saw it. You be the better parent in this and just hang on!