@lynnsgirlI don't feel like I was pressured into doing anything I didn't want to do. Like I said before, the act of giving is the tug and pull I feel in my heart. What others do with what we give is on them.
I believe these 2 have some developmental issues, and they need help from mental health professionals. I'm not in a position to provide that kind of help for them so I'm out on this one except for my personal prayer that they get the help they really need. (It's not golf carts or gift cards for sure!)