Group responsibility

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~ 10 years ago Apr 13, '14 11:45am

It would be nice if we could

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~ 10 years ago Apr 13, '14 12:30pm

I think confronting someone being rude to a server - especially if they've had a few drinks - and who is obviously already in a pissy mood or else is that way all the time - would be a waste of energy - unless, of course, they got REALLY nasty.

If I were sitting next to them, I would be tempted to whisper 'shut up' to them and quickly make my way to the ladies room.

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~ 10 years ago Apr 13, '14 12:33pm

Depends if you are a politician

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~ 10 years ago Apr 13, '14 12:43pm

That might suggest we need to be more selective associating with certain people.

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~ 10 years ago Apr 13, '14 1:00pm

That might suggest we need to be more selective associating with certain people.

@WaldenGuy:

Yep, but there are naughty people everywhere.

Some people "show" well at first but then their :***: gets the best of them.

A local softball group for 5 & 6 years olds has several of these types among them (adults).

I do not have a child in that age group but have stepped over to watch a game or two and OMG. That's all I will say.

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~ 10 years ago Apr 13, '14 1:41pm

What responsibility, if any, do we have for the behavior of people in a group we are with?

Example - out to dinner with a group of people...someone starts acting rude to the server - should you do or say anything?

Example - at a sporting event, some of your fellow fans are showing poor sportsmanship. Do you do or say anything?

@HumbleGirl:

I think it depends on how well you know the rude person...If you have been good friends for years, you may call them out right away, even in front of the server...If you are just friends, you may want to wait until after the event and mention to them in private that they offended you publicly by acting rude...On the other hand, if you don't know them well or at all, you may want to just let it go as you might not see them again or at least mention it to a mutual friend that was there and knows you both...Either way, if I had the opportunity to talk to the server in private(ie:"I have to go the the restroom, BRB" lie), I'd apologize to the server for the rude person's behavior myself and let them know what a jerk the person was being...

Same approach with the sporting event scenario...

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~ 10 years ago Apr 14, '14 11:58am

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>> What responsibility, if any, do we have for the behavior of people in a group we are with?

Example - out to dinner with a group of people...someone starts acting rude to the server - should you do or say anything?

Example - at a sporting event, some of your fellow fans are showing poor sportsmanship. Do you do or say anything?

@HumbleGirl:

I think it depends on how well you know the rude person...If you have been good friends for years, you may call them out right away, even in front of the server...If you are just friends, you may want to wait until after the event and mention to them in private that they offended you publicly by acting rude...On the other hand, if you don't know them well or at all, you may want to just let it go as you might not see them again or at least mention it to a mutual friend that was there and knows you both...Either way, if I had the opportunity to talk to the server in private(ie:"I have to go the the restroom, BRB" lie), I'd apologize to the server for the rude person's behavior myself and let them know what a jerk the person was being...

Same approach with the sporting event scenario...

@EddyFree:
I agree I'd let the waiter know also that the rest of us don't feel that way .. Maybe the person being ugly should be told by the waiter very nicely I would be more then happy to go get the manager for you . It would be interesting to see how this person acts then .

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~ 10 years ago Apr 14, '14 1:40pm

What responsibility, if any, do we have for the behavior of people in a group we are with?

Example - out to dinner with a group of people...someone starts acting rude to the server - should you do or say anything?

Example - at a sporting event, some of your fellow fans are showing poor sportsmanship. Do you do or say anything?

@HumbleGirl:

I went to keemah once with a friend of a friend and this guy started calling this middle eastern family terrorist and just generally being a racist redneck so I told him if he didn't stop being so disrespectful I'd take him out back and beat some sense into him.

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~ 10 years ago Apr 14, '14 3:28pm

I would tell him/ her to quit being an :***:
Then excuse myself from the party.

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~ 10 years ago Apr 14, '14 3:35pm

I would tell him/ her to quit being an :***:
Then excuse myself from the party.

@Dallas Cowboys:

I so agree!! I would say something.

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~ 10 years ago Apr 14, '14 4:22pm

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>> What responsibility, if any, do we have for the behavior of people in a group we are with?

Example - out to dinner with a group of people...someone starts acting rude to the server - should you do or say anything?

Example - at a sporting event, some of your fellow fans are showing poor sportsmanship. Do you do or say anything?

@HumbleGirl:

.Either way, if I had the opportunity to talk to the server in private(ie:"I have to go the the restroom, BRB" lie), I'd apologize to the server for the rude person's behavior myself and let them know what a jerk the person was being...

Same approach with the sporting event scenario...

@EddyFree:

plus the server might not put a loogie in your food

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~ 10 years ago Apr 14, '14 4:36pm

I tend to be one that speaks up but it doesn't make me popular.

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~ 10 years ago Apr 14, '14 4:53pm

plus the server might not put a loogie in your food

@Boonie:

Yeah! Almost forgot about that!...YUCK, that's not the HOUSE SAUCE!!

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~ 10 years ago Apr 15, '14 8:15am

I tend to be one that speaks up but it doesn't make me popular.

@HumbleGirl:
When someone in your group has already been ugly to the waiter anyone else saying anything just becomes confrontational & uncomfortable I feel .I think you have to look at your own motives at the time . If you want everyone at the table to know your an up right sort of person then speak up because what the other person did you felt it to be wrong . But to me , it now becomes about you & not the waiter . If the waiter was a mature person I feel like this is not the first time & they know to forget it & make sure our table gets our food last . But a young waiter is a different story & I still say I'd go talk to them . Even if all you say is I think your doing a good job & just wanted you to know that .

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~ 10 years ago Apr 15, '14 9:25am

Rule of thumb -- if the person you are out to dinner with is not nice to the server ---- it means they are not a nice person (regardles whether they are nice to you or not)

I consider it rude if someone isn't using "please" and "thank you" with every request. It's annoying to hear people "I'm gonna need.... " "Yeah, give me a.... "

Use some manners, people.

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