@Cabin_Mama :
Structure & schedule is out the door . If it isn't out the door your going to be some unhappy campers .You will learn to send him to the grocery store or get him to do something outside . Take the car to the car wash . Anything to busy him long enough to vacuum & mop at least the den where he will be without shoe prints on the wet floors .Mine is semi retired . He tried retiring 10 yrs ago & the people he works for ask him for just 1 more yr .And each yr that is what has taken place . And I complain about the kitchen also I cook constantly. Mainly because 99 % of the restaurants I'm either sick of their food are I just never liked it to start with .

Schedule the maid every two weeks.

^^^^^ I like that.^^^^^

Yep, the cleaning lady comes every two weeks. But in the meantime, let him know how nice it would be for him to clean up after himself. Just because you're a stay at home wife doesn't mean he gets to make messes and expect you to clean up after him. Hey, he's not a little kid and you're not his mom.

Turn off tv and start vacuuming. They will gladly find something to do outside or somewhere

@Cabin_Mama My DH doesn't work at home, so it's different for me. I spend about 45 minutes every morning spot cleaning every room just to keep up. Deep clean about once a week (usually Thursdays). Then they all come home. All of them. Every day.I have no expectations anymore.😔

I wanted to remove every horizontal surface in my home so that they won't have anywhere to pile up their stuff, then I realized that they would just drop it on the floors. I am afraid that DD suffers from the same lazy**** disorder as DH. It's a constant struggle. I'm fairly certain that if I ever died, they would both be featured on an episode of Hoarders within a year.

@Sammee :They'll just find a way to pile it up vertically. Hooks. Thumb tacks. Darts. Duct tape. Somehow employing zero gravity in your living room. Whatever.

@brightlights ^^^^Truth

Give up and find some level of mess you can deal with, then be happy.

Mine is just as bad. Empty Coke can 3 feet from the trash. I tell him you could at least throw it and if you miss I'd think you tried a little. Never picks anything up after himself.

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Well he's the one working (from home) and I'm the one that's sort of retired. We had a maid but now I'm the one doing those jobs because I can. He isn't messy or inconsiderate, just can't quite figure out how to get my stuff done without it being almost instantly undone. I'm realizing that he did a 20 minute clean up each day before I came home from work, so I never knew what all really went on. We'all adjust!

You could always hang a sign in the kitchen....

This is a true story and I have always kept it on my mind.
My parents belonged to the BPOE in our town- it was the only country club. When my Dad retired my Mom especially had a hard time adjusting for the exact reasons listed.
She was at the club playing bridge and complaining about My Dad being underfoot. One lady spoke up and said " well at least you have a husband who is able to make a mess and be underfoot." Shut my Mom right up as the woman was a widow.She told me that and I had to chuckle- my Mom was rarely without words -and I remember those words to this day.
My hubs and I have been married 37 years this year- 35 of those have been with him having a home office when he's not traveling . He's good and picks up after himself pretty well. I just go ahead and do my cleaning- if it gets messy it stays that way till I clean again. My house is as clean as it gets with dogs and cats. Not like I'm going to be entertaining a VIP. It all gets done and it isn't perfect but it's not a disaster.
You'll find a groove and both of you will adjust