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by: HumbleGirl Active Indicator LED Icon 14 OP 
~ 9 years ago   Oct 1, '14 10:23am  
How would you approach a work friend who you believe is being held back in advancement opportunities because of the way they dress, hairstyle, jewelry, makeup? Assume advice was sought on "why don't I get interviews? Offers?"
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Littlegoo Active Indicator LED Icon 14
~ 9 years ago   Oct 1, '14 10:32am  
Submit them for TLC's "What not to Wear". Wait, is that show still on?
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DaycareMom Active Indicator LED Icon 11
~ 9 years ago   Oct 1, '14 10:57am  
It depends..
 
Is their style slutty or are they stuck in the 80's?
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mm4731 Active Indicator LED Icon 7
~ 9 years ago   Oct 1, '14 11:04am  
if slutty please provide work address
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HumbleGirl Active Indicator LED Icon 14 OP 
~ 9 years ago   Oct 2, '14 9:11pm  
Haha this made me laugh!
 
She dresses just very young and casual. She's not thin but she loves thin cotton leggings and tops with fringe or neon and big loud earrings. Also visible tats and funky hair.
 
She's smart and knowledgable but puts forth a very poor image in meetings and whatnot. She wants to know what is holding her back and while I don't know for sure, I think her dress is the main thing.
 
Not sure how to tell her.
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+1 Active Indicator LED Icon 14
~ 9 years ago   Oct 2, '14 9:29pm  
Tell her to dress for the position and pay that she seeks.
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cheryltom Active Indicator LED Icon 15
~ 9 years ago   Oct 2, '14 9:30pm  
HG, I think it is admirable that you take an interest in her career advancement. I would maybe take her to lunch and let her know you are telling her this because you do care about her. Start with a compliment of something you admire about her or or that she does, then be gentle (I know you will) and point out a few of the things you mentioned. Don't hit her full on with everything, just maybe the most "egregious offenses". Since she has asked you "why don't I get interviews? she would probably be open to your input. Good Luck!
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bbk Active Indicator LED Icon 11
~ 9 years ago   Oct 2, '14 9:51pm  
Tell her to dress for the position and pay that she seeks.
 
@+1 . Tell her to go get a make over & to tell them she wants a career girl hair style & make up that it will be great fun to treat herself to this . And I'm sure Dillard's can help her with what a career girl should wear . Tell her you already find her to be a confident type person but she'll be even more so .I have no idea what kind of job she is trying to get but maybe this will help you help her .
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Undecided Active Indicator LED Icon 13
~ 9 years ago   Oct 2, '14 10:24pm  
Tell her to clean up? j/k
 
Lone Star at one time had some short courses called something like 'professionalism in the work place' that were helpful to some.
 
Arrange a seminar on projecting conservative corporate image? Must be gazillions of consultants out there.
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B12Fan Active Indicator LED Icon 6
~ 9 years ago   Oct 3, '14 6:44am  
There are many 'dress for success' book out there. You could always buy her a book and place it on her desk as a gift.
 
She may take the clue.
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redneck roy Active Indicator LED Icon 13
~ 9 years ago   Oct 3, '14 6:51am  
you might offer up that you are willing to offer advice- but only if she wants it from you.
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lana7018 Active Indicator LED Icon 14
~ 9 years ago   Oct 3, '14 7:02am  
I would tell her full out she needs to make changes or she isn't going to advance. If she is as smart as you believe she is then (as you know) the higher up women move in position the less emotional you can afford to be regarding review of you or your work. It takes some "thick skin" to go toe-to-toe at the top of the ladder. If she can't handle being told in a direct way she needs to up her game on the clothes deal - she's isn't going to do well moving up anyway.
 
I've had that conversation with lot's of younger ladies on the way up and usually they were a little embarrassed that someone had to tell them. I've had quite a few come back later on and thank me for helping them out, and that is worth the awkwardness of the discussion to get them headed in the right direction.
 
I usually addressed it as understanding the difference between a personal style preference and an expected business "uniform". Dress for success and all that.
 
Because of the position I was in I wore heels and a suit to work almost every day of my life and that is as far from being my personal style as you can get.
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bbk Active Indicator LED Icon 11
~ 9 years ago   Oct 3, '14 9:11am  

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>> Tell her to dress for the position and pay that she seeks.
 
@+1 . Tell her to go get a make over & to tell them she wants a career girl hair style & make up that it will be great fun to treat herself to this . And I'm sure Dillard's can help her with what a career girl should wear . Tell her you already find her to be a confident type person but she'll be even more so .I have no idea what kind of job she is trying to get but maybe this will help you help her .
 
@bbk:
 
I liked what +1said here & wanted to add to it BUT I HAVE NO IDEA WHY I SAID @+1 !!! I think I wanted to say at humblegirl. Sorry @+1
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